Right, so many of us like to adopt a fitness-oriented lifestyle because we have our own personal goals in mind and, let’s be honest with ourselves, we’re trying to impress other people. We want to prove a point to others, we want to prove those wrong who have counted us out. This isn’t the best thing to do, and it certainly isn’t the best mentality to possess, but we possess it anyway. So, I’m going into the flawed realm of human thought today and I’m going to really hammer down on who we need to impress, and prove ourselves to. Like I mentioned, this is, in actuality, flawed human thought, but we love to have an underlying allegory as to why we’re doing what we’re doing. For starters, we’re looking to improve our own physiques, in return granting self-approval, and really gaining self-confidence, self-esteem, and grow as a person. With fitness, comes discipline. But let’s be honest, we’re trying to win others over. We’ve all been there, and we all continue to do just that. So, we need to take something that isn’t okay and make it okay.
Look, I’m not saying I’m going to win over Alissa White-Gluz anytime soon (to my Weirton friends, I had to fire Dianne from celebrity crush status because I don’t like her new hairstyle), but this isn’t to say I go head over heels for her every single time a music new video from Arch Enemy is out. Okay, so enough Alissa talk, and let’s get down to business: either someone’s disbelief in you further encouraged you to take the fitness route, others counted you out, you simply wanted to go where everyone knows your name but in a gym sense, or you were simply tired of everyone else looking and feeling great around you and you had to be part of this hallowed group. Or worse, you’re the only unsuccessful person in your whole family and you decided to make a change because they were counting you out, feel free to ask me about my Comeback Kid manuscript, which I send out for free since it was a fun project.
So, we are definitely trying to impress more than only ourselves here, and I’m just being dead honest with you and I expect you to be dead honest right back at me, so cut this nonsense about not doing this because of the influences of other people. Okay, so now that we’re being honest with each other here, we need to understand that this is a fact of the flawed human mind and we have to live with, and make the most of it. It’s all about impressing the right people, but who are the right people? Honestly, it’s the people who really care about you and your well-being. In other words, I’m saying you can’t be doing this just to fit into a group that barely knows of your existence, you can’t be trying to impress some girl or guy you like but they may or may not like you back (this is why I hate the show Fat Chance), and it most definitely shouldn’t be about trying to get accepted into some social group or organization just to win their approval. You need to only worry about those worried about you in a positive sense, and that’s it. Even those haters who worry about you in a negative sense, you shouldn’t deal with them, because not only is it unnecessary, it’s also unhealthy. So stop!
We all have people willing to help us out, insert us into their social group, whatever it may be, and include us in anything, because these are the people who care about you for being you. We can’t be trying to impress one person or another, or win over the approval of someone else. So, if a really good looking girl you have a thing for is dating a guy who dresses in a camo hat, wears a white t-shirt, tight faded jeans, has a stomach hanging past his belt, and you know she can do way better (as in probably landing a highly athletic NFL caliber football player), then that’s her problem and not yours, so stop worrying about it! Man, I’m burning some bridges today. But you can’t be worried about people who aren’t worried about you, and I don’t care what your underlying goal was when you stepped into the gym. Worry about those who worry about you, and that’s it.
I like adding in my life lessons every now and again, because they really intertwine with the gym, even if sometimes I don’t seem to be heading in that general direction. But it really is, because the people you meet in the gym may be the exact people you need to win approval over, not because you have to, but because they care about you in a positive sense just as you care for yourself in the same sense. They are looking out for your well-being, and that’s always a positive. These are the people you need to be worrying about. If they don’t worry about you, then don’t worry about them. It’s that plain and simple and I can’t make it any plainer and simpler.